Category Archives: Chores/Daily Chore Log

She said no.

Well today was a bit crazy. Mistress said no. I begged and begged and begged and she said no. I was shocked! Haha.
But it actually turned out to be a good thing. We had some good conversation. We took a couple photos that I’ve been wanting to take. We snuggled a bit and tried to enjoy the hot weather. And most importantly, Mistress taught me a lesson. At the end of the day, she’s in charge. I’ve been forgetting my place a lot lately, and Mistress helped me see that.
But at the same time, we did a bit of learning too. Mistress showed me how all the energy flows to the point in her body that she’s concentrating on when she meditates. I got to show Mistress a couple things too.
I definitely think I prefer days like today. Soft. Quiet. Cuddly. I like when Mistress kisses my forehead and my hands ūüôā

And don’t tell Mistress, but I wish I would have walked with her today.

Week of Free[not].

I headed home last Sunday to be with my family and visit Mistress for the week. Because I was going to be amongst family and likely be busy, eating out, catching up, and just all around having fun, Mistress granted me a week off from my chore log.

Day one, it was liberating. It was kindof nice to not have to think about that 10pm deadline or do chores while I was home.

Day two, the excitement began to wane. I felt like I was missing something or forgetting something and it put me on edge a little. When I realized it was my chore log, I texted Mistress, and that’s when she told me I’d been given the week off.

Day three, I really started to miss it. I missed the routine, I missed pleasing Mistress, and I noticed that I was getting a lot sassier with Mistress. I asked for an orgasm during a completely inappropriate moment (Mistress and I were saying our goodbyes after a few days of time together). Not only did I get one orgasm, but I asked for another. I should have never asked for the first one.

Day four, I noticed that I was getting much bolder in my conversations with Mistress, and I also noticed a deep desire to serve. Mistress was actually feeling ill, so my desire to serve was filled a little bit, as I was able to text her and try to encourage her and make her feel better.

Day five was awful. I realllllyyyyyy wanted to serve Mistress, but she was treating me as her equal. I found myself provoking her over and over again, to the point of needing to be punished.

 

I’m not exactly sure what it is about my chore log that I like, but I definitely know that I have grown to need it. I felt almost punished this last week, as I was almost denied the opportunity to serve Mistress. I was able to serve her sexually when we were together, but I wasn’t able to serve her through everyday tasks like I enjoy doing. I think I’ve found that I like the two equally – something I didn’t realize when we started our BDSM experience. I’ve also learned that sex isn’t everything. Mistress gave me close to 20 orgasms from Sunday night to Wednesday morning, and now I have to wait until next Friday (Yes, July 6th) for another orgasm. However, as the time goes by, my underlying need for sex is there, but I’m gaining control of it. Perhaps that was Mistress’ plan after all. I’m sure I’ll be practically begging by Friday, but until then, I’m learning to control my desires.

Formulating Rules

When Mistress and I first started our d/s relationship, we took time to come up with a bare-bones outline of what W/we’d like to see in the relationship. This framework became O/our expectations, found here. As W/we progressed, new things came up, other parameters were needed.

Next, a set of punishments were created, which are still in place today. Mistress wrote up a list of about 30 punishments and then asked me to rank them from 1-10, in terms of least “painful” to most “painful”. I did as she directed, and then W/we collaborated on enough others to fill out the list. She did reserve some “non-debatable” punishments (outlined at the bottom of the punishments¬†page) that she could use instead of one of the ranked punishments, depending on the severity of my infraction.

As the punishments found their place, W/we decided that daily chores would be appropriate as well. Mistress outlined things she’d like me to do and I was permitted to offer suggestions as well. As W/we worked, W/we found a list of simple chores and tasks that would remind me of my place yet still serve a purpose and not be mindless work. I submit a daily chore log to Mistress before 10pm and outline my work. She then awards me points based on my successes or failures. I must have earned 13 points by the end of a Monday-Friday time period to be granted an orgasm.

As these chores were found to be successful, I still had a desire to serve Mistress. She then created a list of things I could do when I was with her, my favorite being that I get the¬†privilege¬†of servicing her to orgasm each night. She allowed me to express my wishes again, and as a result, we have determined that washing her hair is something I might earn as a special reward. I’m very excited for that reward to happen :]

Today, W/we finally came up with rules. As I told Mistress, I was very excited about this. I believe that she was shocked that the anal plug rule is my favorite. (Secret time: I really like anal. Mistress introduced it into O/our sex life a couple months ago and it is one of my favorite things.)

I’m excited to see how the¬†implementation¬†of the new rules works.

Well, two posts in one day. I’m all out of ideas :/

In submission.